(Theres more to the story but these are facts). after a long conversation. I strongly suspect my mother got pregnant with me to trap my dad so that she would have a better life as the wife of a policeman in another European country (think of the blonde woman in A Officer and a Gentleman). We had several talks but she wanted to keep the baby eventhough we had discussed this many many times before. I run into some still looking, but they are after the same thing. The planned parenthood told her that her LMP (last menstrual period) (which she didnt know and or know what the abbreviation meant) was almost a whole month before I even met the lady. He discourages you from using birth control pills. The following day I called her. When he pays you a conjugal visit, he brings up excuses of forgetting to carry a long condom or he says he is going to pull out. Accidents do happen. 1. Its a HuGE responsibility, you need to prepare that human for living on earth and hopefully teach them to make the earth a better place. She said its okay But I never heard from her again that evening or the next day. The following came and she did not commit to our scheduled meet up times. Thank you for putting this together. Im going to give you 8 pregnancy trap red flags and tell you how to protect yourself from being trapped by a pregnancy. Thanks, and any other advice you are willing to share will be appreciated immensely. Some of the red flags you might see include his working excessive overtime or spending too much time at the office, her being vague about where she's been or will be, his or her dependence on alcohol or drugs, his asking you for money, her lack of boundaries with her family, his siding the with guys over you, her blaming everyone but herself for You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. She later tells me she missed her period. Always be on the watch if you are not seeing a long-term relationship with him. He was desperate to make himself look like a valid person so he could get his other children in court. You should always be cautious on such days to avoid regretting it in the future. If he initiates sex more often during your ovulation period, that's another sign he wants to get you pregnant. No thank you. Last one cost him a house and $1,000.00 a month, no kids. Shocked and scared (26y/o), I didnt know what to do so I proposed and almost sick to my stomach said I do. When I did, she told me she was cooking and would show up after. He always makes sure you feel comfortable and happy in any situation. I have heard so many stories about men in military that this happened to. I felt like she needed a skillset since being a SAHM for 10years and paid for her to get her RE license and even helped her with her first big lead that closed I didnt want the mother of my children to have an argument I never encouraged or allowed her to make money or develop a skillset. He wants to be your hero. Bank account. She has something to gain from being your baby momma. Thank you so much for sharing the childs side of the baby-trap story. I made a half attempt of trying myself to create a false pregnancy test and could not understand how this one couldve been faked. Stuart: Sorry to hear the pain that you are carrying. The pregnancy may be a preemptive move to cut off your chance of getting away. He insists on calling the shots and deciding how and when communication. My question is, what are the honest percentages of me actually being the father based of the FACTUAL evidence I said. It does sound like you were baby trapped. He's trying to keep yourself esteem low to keep you trapped in the shitty relationship. Like the one a woman was working on when her boyfriend walked in on her inseminating herself with semen from his used condom. Meanwhile when I called her at work she couldnt talk. She then says it was an accident, but it was actually the result of a well-conceived plan (figuratively and literally). The weekend passes and 15 days after sex she goes to planned parenthood and they tell her (I was told from her that the doctors said) shes 5 weeks pregnant and it has a heart beat. Offer him suggestions about various honorable options look like in this situation. Youre right in questioning whether your former girlfriend was pregnant: she shows you a negative pregnancy test but not the supposed positive one, she gets drunk while shes pregnant, she involves you but then doesnt include you in any appointments, etc. Which made me feel responsible of her broken health and responsible of giving her a traumatic experience that scar her for life. After coupe of days she told me that she got a terrible haemorrhage and she had to be admitted in the ICU. What do you think the man did? Sounds like he should know better. Oh, one more thing. Maybe you are on the pills and he tries to persuade you on skipping some days or gives you the effects of using pills just to make you stop completely from taking them. Privately, she thinks, Could it have been my mistaken memory? 18. (Maybe because they are rescuers. It is upon you to make firm decisions on why you take them. You also may not be able to get your husband to admit to himself or you that he was fooled by her, but hopefully hes done fooling around on you. June 7 shes pregnant. So, watch out if out of nowhere he starts discussions concerning having a baby when you are both not ready mentally. Wanting to not use protection and get you pregnant, with no ring. Unfortunately, you are in a bad situation in a marriage with someone who is dedicated to her manipulative patterns. In response to Dustin Delfs: Im trying my best to survive but sincerely have my doubts. A pregnancy may be accidental-on-purpose. This red flag could be in play even if she presents herself as disappointed that she is pregnant. How To Recognize Subtle Signs Of Domestic Violence. Believing God to work a miracle in her heart and confess (and out of fear He may squish my soul if I divorced) I stayed with her and we now have two more children (a girl and two boys). Cam. How To Recognize Subtle Signs Of Domestic Violence, 3 Mind Games The Most Insecure Men Play In Relationships, If Your Guy Does These 7 Things, He's Playing You For A Fool, 16 Warning Signs You're Dealing With An EVIL Person, The EXACT Moment Men Fall Out Of Love With Their Partners, and identifying the covert toxic dynamics at play. But if you do, you'll be on your way to breaking free and finding a peaceful, healthy relationship with someone who deserves you and makes you feel happy. Not long enough, the man had a feeling that the lady was not much interested and so he started thinking of ways to make her stay. Is he really right and he never did say X or agreed to Y? She was a compulsive lire, drug addict, schizophrenic, and drank fairly often. So a woman that is 5 weeks pregnant is actually only 2 weeks pregnant. Well, I have. I left it at that. He plays mind games and tries to trap you with tricky, unnecessary questions. Here are some signs to watch out for: 1. It categorizes women as being very excited and happy over babies. It sounds like you are feeling both anxious and depressed. Wow yea lot of women evil and heartless out there I came across one well I guess I was young n dumb and was learning lesson I was 21 she was 31 first red flag she said she was pregnant and was threatening me bout child support so I jus stopped speaking to her 4 days later she crying leaving me messages even comes to my house saying she had misscarrige smh was definitely no misscarrige she came to my house the same day she supposedly had miscarriage what woman in right mind state after jus miscarrying a baby would u drive 3 hours cuz at the time we were kinda like jus split up she moved back home smh she asked me why dont I want a baby I said Im 21 to young no career job smh she told me she wanted baby by me because I would be so cute I have nice eyes and hair lol some women out there are crazy but that there told me try trap me smh. She could have a miscarriage after your married and youll be legally stuck. Pressure to Move In Quickly One sign that your partner may be trying to trap you is if they're pressuring you to move in together quickly. If you are being tricked into fatherhood, chances are you are vulnerable to other ways women abuse men,you need my books: Or for a summary of the larger book that is linked above: Previous Post As a kid woman were to be treated as soft fuzzy things, but it turned out they are like the movie, Furrbies where they turn after dark. I know he is feeling bad for her story and is too embarrassed of himself to admit that he fell for it. Ignoring me in fact whilst still maintaining shes pregnant but has never down me a positive pregnancy test? Anyways my problem is that shes always saying shes pregnant and weve been having weird miscarriages and stuff or she doesnt want closeness n or cuddling with her and so Im wondering if they could be a red flag or something? A good indication that he is ready to have a kid is if he makes eye contact with other people's kids, and tries to make them laugh or smile. A few more days went by, no word from her until the early hours of 18th June when I got a missed video call at 2:15am from her. I stuck with it and put up with shit for 18 years. Very cozy. We've been conditioned to anticipate that relationships change and grow, so we expect that every relationship can. One of the main signs that your man wants to get you pregnant is when he gets excited around children. She ended up going to the clinic close to me but when I asked her if I can escort her to wait with her she said no, they wont let me wait with her. When he pays you a conjugal visit, he brings up excuses of forgetting to carry a long condom or he says he is going to pull out. We use cookies on our website to give you the most relevant experience by remembering your preferences and repeat visits. They've Become Very Excited For Friends With Baby News We all get excited for our friends when they have good news, but does your partner seem extra excited when your friends announce they are. so I did the math over and over again to possibly show him that she may have been sleeping around. Who is willing to have a baby to stay with someone that doesnt even want to be with them anymore? You have tried to break up with him before. Your seed is necessary for her motherhood but beyond that, you may or may not be relevant to her. If she will benefit in some way from the pregnancythe pregnancy might be a trap. It sucks to read all these comments. That was June 28th. Actually, when you do, make sure you post the entire story of what you did to him so everyone can burn you with serves you right. To take advice from people who are not bias on hers or his side . #3. On June 22, after hearing that she had been to a pool bar I usually took her to, I went and checked out their CCTV footage and saw her there with a female friend playing pool. She may be trying to ensnare you with the "lying about a pregnancy to keep him" trap. If you told her you dont want kids nowthe pregnancy might be a trap. I knew we werent exclusive and we are a lot older past the point of the wanting more kids. Abortion. There are legitimate reasons for going off of birth control pills. A question he needs to ask himself is: Would I be marrying this woman now if she wasnt pregnant with my child? Clearly, the answer would be No.. There are still options for you, and you can get through this. She drank and smoked herself to death. He will start showing you photos of cute babies or making you aware that his friend is pregnant. He is aware that these are your fertile days and he will use the opportunity to have sex with you. (She had retrieved the condom out of the garbage can!). I honestly think women who do such a thing are not mentally stable. Sometimes the best-laid plans run amuck and create offspring. 7. Your partner keeps track of your ovulation days and wants to have sex with you on these days. Out of these, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. She has a lame excuse for going off birth control. I feel Im not a good father or the father I want to be to my current kids and now Im being forced into a situation that will make that more difficult. If she isnt pregnant now, any more sexual encounters with her give her more opportunities to get pregnant. He should do nothing before attending a doctors appointment with her and confirming in-person that she is actually pregnant. My gf of 6 months, whos in her final year studying civil engineering told me on 6th June she wasnt feeling well, I should find a clinic for her to visit. The following day we spoke about it and I brought up the fact that she had been taking Accutane and its very dangerous for the foetus. This is a serious issue because it can lead to financial and emotional difficulties for both you and your child. We agreed it was best to not go through with the pregnancy, besides, itd affect her last year in school. Confronted her she denied it it, just like everything else, for years. He Seems A Little Bit More Mellow Around Babies And Children One of the signs that should tip you off that your man wants to get you pregnant is when he becomes softer around children than he used to be. had this happen to me, I asked "where do you want it" she said "in me" and I just said "Nah" and backed out at the last second. By clicking Accept, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies. For those reading this, if you are having suicidal thoughts: call 988 (The Suicide Prevention Helpline). When you start paying attention to the patterns of change in a relationship, as well as to the way you respond to those changes that don't stick, you can begin assessing the situation more accurately and determine if the man you're involved with is trying to keep you trapped and under his control. -Ann. This situation triggers me in a deeper level than just betrayal. We did not make eye contact, but I saw the narcissistic girl at the coffee shop. 24) He respects your boundaries. Shes also the same woman who would go to the pool bar with my gf/ex. Anxiety Worksheets, Books, and Recordings by Ann Silvers, 7 Diet Tips for Mental Health and Wellbeing, 101 Emotion Words List: Expand Your Emotion Vocabulary, Depression in Men: It Happens More Than You Think. As funny as this sounds it is a real sign that he wants to trap you with pregnancy. Many a man has been snared by an announcement that a woman is pregnant with his child. Now 70, have a girlfriend of 30+ years but all I am to her is Mechanic, Maintenace man and chauffeur as there has not been any sex in at least ten years. First saying that Im too good of a friend to her ex (my friend). Many deny it when I say that women trap men into pregnancy, but I have seen it too many times with my own eyes. I wasnt dumb enough to marry her. My intuition told me that she was about to tell me that she was pregnant. We explained that she could leave you, take half and laugh. Worst part of all of this is Im the bad guy. I said I was only checking up on her. Please note: comments must be approved before they are published. Normally, your boyfriend should be kind to babies and find them cute. What resources can I use? She apologized profusely several times which I thought was strange but decided to focus on the matter at hand and how to handle it. However, the most common reason for going off of birth control pills or getting an IUD removed isdrum roll pleaseto get pregnant. June 18th. More back and forth reveals that her doctors tests indicate that she is 7 weeks pregnant, 60,000 hcg, which would put fertilization at +/- 2 days of when we slept together. Conversation ended. Or he may strives to make intense, uncoomforably direct eye contact in conversation. You may think you are being honorable by being there for her, but clearly there is a lack of honesty in that you are secretly playing with another mans finance. He enjoys interacting with babies and children. I still havent made a decision. She visited the doctors (without me) and they suggested that with the Accutane she was prescribed shes going to have a miscarriage. However, she has done nothing but cause contention, be deceptive with finances and last year she out of the blue asked if I was the beneficiary for my parents assets. A friend was married SEVEN TIMES and spent over a million dollars on child support and alimony. After I caught her layering financial transactions (essentially stealing money from our family) I confronted her and she apologized. So she decides to take the decision away from you and make it happen. I've heard so many baby trap stories that I often ask couples that I'm counseling whether their children were planned. 5. The usual norm is that ladies trap men by getting pregnant. Then 3 weeks later ask for a professional photo shoot and put pictures on blast everywhere unless they are up to something. I even took care of her for the sake of the kids. Here's Everything You Need To Know About The Term (And If It Might Be Happening To You). All I want to do is to take action to try and convince her to not go through with the pregnancy, but she makes sure to take the opposite stance of whatever I suggest. I guess she must have sensed something was off and turned into a bloody psycho. 19. Some of the most common signs of pregnancy with period-like symptoms include: irregular menstrual bleeding changes in the consistency of menstrual blood cramping and bloating breast tenderness fatigue nausea and vomiting I never was shown a positive one and she did the supposed doctor visits herself without me. If you notice these strategies or a pattern of incomplete follow-through, start watching to see if there's a lot of word play going on or if you feel he's being secretive. If the man gets over-possessive, stops using protection measures during intercourse, discusses funny topics on baby fever, jumps to marriage topics, discourages you from birth control pills, you have ever broken up before then he would trap you with pregnancy. This is especially concerning if the two of you have only been dating for a short period of time, or if they suggest moving in without discussing it first. She cannot decipher which is the real guy: the vulnerable one she met in the beginning, the one who acts normal for the long stretches of time, or the one who is playing games and hurting her. A bright light in your story is that it sounds like the kids saw reality and you have a strong relationship with them. 3. When she heard that she said no, no you shouldnt do that bla bla. The contents of this website and products sold are not intended to replace one-on-one relationships with qualified health care professionals, and they are not intended as medical advice. She has a conveniently timed miscarriage. Sean: Thanks for sharing your story. Thus, if you notice your man being actively involved with children at a party . As for why a woman might pull you in with a pregnancy and then push you away that could happen with a person who enjoys playing games with people. By remembering your preferences and repeat visits are still options for you and! 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